Dear Hoopers

Blurry Saturday Night

Last Saturday night was a blur for me and I ended up in my guy friend's bed. I don't know what happened but I want to...

Christmas Visit Stress

My parents' house is soul sucking on Christmas day, but I know I need to visit.

Gun Range In Laws

What should I do when my in-laws want to bring my son to the gun range?

Long Distance Fear

After my boyfriend and I went to different colleges, he hooked up with other girls since he didn't think we were "exclusive." We're very much back...

Helpless Husband

I'm a stay at home housewife and take care of my mother and my husband's mother including cooking, cleaning, and shopping for them. My husband will...

Booty Call on Hold

My ex-boyfriend says he only wants a booty call. But I want a relationship. Should I sleep with him?

Teeth Grinder

Dear Hoopers encourage an employee whose stress is harming their teeth

S-Town: A Podcast for our Mental Health

S-Town allows us to enter one man’s life in a way that might save our own. John McLemore was a gift to his world and to...

Live-In Friend

I've let a guy friend crash at my place for the past 7 months. Now my boyfriend wants me to throw him out.

Why Don’t Boys Like Me

My friends and family tell me that I'm pretty but I never feel that way. So why does every boy I like never like me back?...

Pregnancy Feelings

I'm pregnant and should be happy, but I find myself unusually sad. Is this normal?

Introvert Alone Time Causes Conflict

My boyfriend thinks I don't love him when I want time alone and is very critical of me for doing so. Is this reasonable for me...

The Tyranny of “How are you?”

When I moved to Chicago several years ago I started noticing people greet me with the question, “How are you?” (or “How is it going?”). While...

Too Sensitive for Therapy

Negative comments mess me up for days and I'm afraid it is sabotaging my relationship. I want to go to therapy but am afraid I will...

Depressed Messages from a Struggling Soldier

My veteran brother-in-law is struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts. What do I say when he reaches out to me?

Intimate Insecurity

Dear Hoopers support a young woman facing the pains of her early life trauma

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

My girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago, but we have decided to live together for the time being until we sell our house...

Desperately Trying to Help

He said he needs time to heal his broken heart. I care for him greatly and don’t want him suffering from what this girl did to...

Suspicious Spouse

I think my wife may be using drugs behind my back. I have found suspicious traces here and there but nothing definitive. I don't want to...

He Kept Our Relationship a Secret

I talked and texted with a guy for 8 months. We lived far apart so I wasn't suspicous at first when we couldn't meet up. He...

Bonus Mom to an Infant

I fell in love with a man going through a divorce. Then I found out that his soon to be ex-wife was pregnant. Fast forward and...

Give Me a Heart of Stone

I want to be single after a difficult break up so I can focus on myself and my son. But there is a nice guy who...

Long Distance Fear

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

We Lost our Zing

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

Dad is a Third Wheel

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

In-Laws, Am I Right?

Miscarriage Heartbroken

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

Fighting for Family

Depressed Relationship