Dear Hoopers

Spoiling Grandchildren is Causing Marriage Problems

I would rather spend money on my grandchildren than on myself but my wife isn't having it. How do I convince her that giving to my...

Left Out in the Cold

Dear Hoopers advise a neighbor worried about the dog next door

Sexuality Confusion

I've been confused about my sexuality since I was 15. I love being with women but I can only see myself marrying a man.

2 Women, Big Problems

After my wife and I separated, I found new love. Now my wife wants to work things out and I'm torn up about what do do....

Future Cat Lady

I keep going on dates with no success. I feel like giving up. Am I destined to become a future cat lady?

Struggling with my Partner’s Sexual Past

I can't get past the fact that he's slept with so many woman. I think about it when we are being intimate and every woman I...

Empty Handed House Guest

My friend always shows up empty handed to dinner parties. Should I drop a hint?

Betrayed by Bestie

One of my best friends started dating my ex-boyfriend just a few weeks after he broke up with me. Now she wants to be back in...

Wife Seeks Experimentation

My wife of 8 years wants to experiment with women. I want to go along with it and make her happy but I'm feeling left out....

Weighty Comment

During a recent trip home from college, my dad made a comment about my weight that really hurt. Now I feel self conscious.

The Tyranny of “How are you?”

When I moved to Chicago several years ago I started noticing people greet me with the question, “How are you?” (or “How is it going?”). While...

Intimate Insecurity

Dear Hoopers support a young woman facing the pains of her early life trauma

Introvert Alone Time Causes Conflict

My boyfriend thinks I don't love him when I want time alone and is very critical of me for doing so. Is this reasonable for me...

Criticized

Dear Hoopers encourage a husband to find safe space when his marriage becomes too toxic

Overly Negative Friend is Hurting My Mental Health

I have a friend that I love dearly but her constant negativity is dragging me down

Pregnancy Feelings

I'm pregnant and should be happy, but I find myself unusually sad. Is this normal?

Next Door Concern

Dear Hoopers give counsel on how to navigate a noisy neighbor with concerns of partner violence

In-Laws, Am I Right?

My new husband's family deals with a very dysfunctional and demanding personality who often engages in manipulation and argumentative behavior. As a new in-law to this...

Intimate Insecurity

Dear Hoopers support a young woman facing the pains of her early life trauma

Unloved Wife

My husband is passionate about watching football and hunting and loves spending time with the kids but I seem to be his last priority

Afraid of Risking It All

I have strong feelings for my good guy friend. The only problem is that he already has a girlfriend.

Criticized

Dear Hoopers encourage a husband to find safe space when his marriage becomes too toxic

Long Distance Fear

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

We Lost our Zing

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

Dad is a Third Wheel

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

In-Laws, Am I Right?

Miscarriage Heartbroken

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

Fighting for Family

Depressed Relationship