Emotionless Fiancé led to Affair


I was with my past boyfriend/ fiancé for 7 years. I loved him to pieces and we were best friends. My only complaint was his lack of emotion. I had seen him cry one time and I don’t even know if it was actually a tear. There may have been something in his eye. He was stone cold.

The Tyranny of “How are you?”


When I moved to Chicago several years ago I started noticing people greet me with the question, “How are you?” (or “How is it going?”). While at first this was a seemingly innocuous question, the more I answered this question flippantly or half-heartedly the more that I began to struggle with the intention behind the question.