Category: Relationships

Long Distance Fear


After my boyfriend and I went to different colleges, he hooked up with other girls since he didn’t think we were “exclusive.” We’re very much back together and committed now, but I can’t seem to keep the fear away when we’re apart. Can I ever relax and enjoy my relationship again like I used to?

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion


In all of our discussions about how to raise future children, we came to the agreement that they would be raised with “both sides”. After he spoke with his mother about me and the potential for us to take the next step, she said to him that if he does stay with me, any kids would have to be his religion and for his family to take control of all religious instruction. He has now come back, and given me a choice of accepting this, or for our relationship to come to an end. He knows how important sharing my religion is to me, and when I say this, he tells me that he would make it up to me in other ways, and that this is the last thing he will ask of me. He has said that it would cause too many issues with his extended family if kids are not raised in his religion. He flat out said that he is not afraid of his mom, but he can’t say no to her. I feel like he thinks “I’m not worth the hassle” to have uncomfortable conversations with both sides of our families.

We Lost our Zing


I’ve been married for 7 years, but I do not love my husband the same way that I used to. I mean I like him more than anyone else in the world, but there is no zing. I love him too but I don’t feel in love with him. It’s hard for me to have physical relationships with him. I don’t want to leave him. I want to fall in love with him and be physically attracted to him. Can you please help me?

Partner’s Sexual Guilt


I finally found the man that I want to marry. He’s kind, considerate and we work very well together. However last week I found out he has slept with prostitutes in the past. Some traumatic stuff happened to him in his younger years and I think it sort of tipped him over the edge and I don’t really think he thought much about others. He slept with prostitutes 3 times during his 20s. However, he also slept with a prostitute only 18 months ago, in the Philippines, which I have massive issues with as the women there aren’t exactly given a lot of choice. He’s not proud about it, he’s deeply regretful and doesn’t try to excuse any of it.

Dad is a Third Wheel


My boyfriend (I’ll call Jeff) and I have been together for 7 years, and started dating at 18. We both live with our parents, and recently we’ve been considering getting an apartment together, but nearby just in case we break up. Our plan is to move to a different state at some point. Jeff’s dad is a widower, doesn’t have contact with much of his family and has a few friends. Jeff wants to visit his dad EVERY day when we move out. And as far as moving to a different state, Jeff wants to wait until his dad retires (maybe in five years or so) so all three of us can move together. In said different state, Jeff wants to buy a house with an in-law apartment or another cottage on the property for his dad to live in.

In-Laws, Am I Right?


My new husband’s family deals with a very dysfunctional and demanding personality who often engages in manipulation and argumentative behavior. As a new in-law to this family, being on the receiving end of that family member’s behavior has been jarring at best and damaging at worst; and we’ve only been married three months. My best responses have been to remain non-reactive, disengage and take distance… But this is very hard to do when my better half is at times consumed with how to manage the fallout. How do I respond in love, when everything in me wants to call this person out for their childish behavior and slowly phase them out of my life?

Miscarriage Heartbroken


During my pregnancy my husband was awful to me. We fight a lot and it ended up in me losing the baby. He is a good husband and this fighting only started when I found out I was pregnant. He supported me throughout the grieving process but I started to lose interest in my marriage. Just when I was able to fall in love with my husband again I fell in love with another man.

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together


My girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago, but we have decided to live together for the time being until we sell our house that we bought together. She says that she just feels that she doesn’t like the way her life in general is and that she lost passion in our relationship. Throughout the 5 months it was a good relationship so I thought that we would get back together, that is until she started seeing this guy.

Fighting for Family


My boyfriend will soon become my fiancé, and although our relationship is mostly wonderful, there is one hurdle I hope to cross. My boyfriend hates my mother. In some ways, this is completely understandable. His experience with her has largely been negative. Although she likes him a lot, she has a very rocky relationship with me, and our fights have often affected my relationship with my boyfriend. When we do get married, he will become part of my family, and I don’t want our relationship with them to crumble. Is it wrong of me to ask him to be polite and civil, even to my dysfunctional mother, for the sake of me keeping a good relationship with my family?

Dead End


After my breakup from a serious relationship, I found a new guy during my “finding myself” phase. At first we said that we would take things slow, but things quickly turned intimate. He comforts me, holds my hand, kisses me on the forehead randomly, cuddling with me at night. That’s all great but when I said that we should take our relationship to the next step, he says that he just wants to take it slow because of his rough past. Is this a lost cause? Should I give up and run?

Divorce with Regret


Since my ex-husband’s wife became critically ill, he started reaching out to me for support and just to talk. I am thinking he is letting me know that if something happens to his wife he wants us to be together again. Are my thoughts just wishful thinking or is he giving me subtle hints?

Fearful of Drug Past


When I met my partner and we shared our past I knew we were different. He had been into drugs and weed until he hit 30, I had been previously married with two children and never touched a drug. But we hit it off because this was 3yrs behind him. Now, we are several years later and I am fearful of what a relapse could do to our relationship.

Broken Heart Lifestyle


Hello! I’m 40 and full of energy. I’m growing my own company and doing yoga and running with my dogs. I have been in love four times in my life and married one of the three men in those four (there was one woman). My husband bolted at the prospect of having children and I was devastated but I’ve moved on. Outside of those four, I’ve barely even had crushes. The problem is, I’m getting older and it feels like having a broken heart is really becoming a lifestyle for me. How do I find love in my 40s?

Overweight Comments


Before even saying “good morning” to me, the first text I get from him now is, “Have you been to the gym today?” and makes me feel guilty if the answer is no. He jokingly said that January is the deadline and if I’m not “fit” by that month, he will dump me. He brings up this topic quite often and I don’t know if he is really joking or not. I know he probably just wants to motivate me, but this feels weird. I feel a horrible amount of pressure on me and I’m definitely not fond of this kind of “motivation.”

Walking on Eggshells


Even though we’ve dated for 4 years my boyfriend still has a habit of bringing up his ex-girlfriends on a regular basis. I get really mad and then he gets really mad at me for feeling that way. It feels like we’re walking on eggshells every time he brings up the past.

Tongue Tied


I’ve been having trouble communicating with my boyfriend for a while now. I’m the kind of person who, when something upsets me, I need time to process it before I talk to someone about it. How can we talk without losing our minds?

Bonus Mom to an Infant


I fell in love with a man going through a divorce. Then I found out that his soon to be ex-wife was pregnant. Fast forward and he has a new baby daughter who isn’t mine. I love and respect him so much but this is incredibly difficult for me. I want to be the best bonus mom and significant other I can be. Help me find a way.

Invisible Girl


Sometimes I just feel so invisible with my “boyfriend.” Why does he have to seek other girls’ attention when I give him my 150%? I’ve always put him first, and it sucks. I’m scared to face him and have “the talk” because I’m sure he’ll say that he is honestly tired of me. He was my first boyfriend, the guy that I lost my virginity to and my first real love.

Political Differences


I get nervous every time my boyfriend and I watch a TV show and a topic of any political nature comes up. It’s not that he’s a huge trump supporter or anything but we just see things differently. I’m scared that he’s going to say something, and then I’ll counter if I don’t agree, we’ll fight, and it’ll be horrible.

Fell Out of Love with Mr. Perfect


I’ve fallen out of love with Mr. Perfect and I don’t know what to do. I could picture a future with him but for a while now all I can think about is how I’m unhappy. Because he hasn’t done anything wrong, I feel like I’m going to irrevocably break his heart into a million tiny pieces.

More Than Friends


My boyfriend said that he didn’t want a relationship anymore but now we still do all the things we used to before. We hook up, cuddle, and talk about the important things in our lives. Are we still dating?

Best Friends, Or So I thought


I wanted to ask my roommate and “best friend” to be in my wedding until I found out some stuff recently and now I’m torn. She talks about me behind my back and disrespects me every chance she gets. Am I crazy for wanting to cut her out?