After my boyfriend and I went to different colleges, he hooked up with other girls since he didn’t think we were “exclusive.” We’re very much back together and committed now, but I can’t seem to keep the fear away when we’re apart. Can I ever relax and enjoy my relationship again like I used to?
Category: Dating
Dead End
After my breakup from a serious relationship, I found a new guy during my “finding myself” phase. At first we said that we would take things slow, but things quickly turned intimate. He comforts me, holds my hand, kisses me on the forehead randomly, cuddling with me at night. That’s all great but when I said that we should take our relationship to the next step, he says that he just wants to take it slow because of his rough past. Is this a lost cause? Should I give up and run?
Torn Between Two Dreams
I want to pursue my dream of graduate school but my dream of a boyfriend doesn’t want to follow me when I move for school. Do we try to make it work or am I just kidding myself?
Dating Problems for a Guy
Despite the world being obsessed with “social justice”, you won’t read about women’s pervasive patterns of racial, height, or other looks discrimination against men or how difficult they are to counteract. You won’t read about the growing inequities in the dating marketplace these create. I feel harshly discriminated against by women every day in the dating marketplace for things I can’t control.
Broken Heart Lifestyle
Hello! I’m 40 and full of energy. I’m growing my own company and doing yoga and running with my dogs. I have been in love four times in my life and married one of the three men in those four (there was one woman). My husband bolted at the prospect of having children and I was devastated but I’ve moved on. Outside of those four, I’ve barely even had crushes. The problem is, I’m getting older and it feels like having a broken heart is really becoming a lifestyle for me. How do I find love in my 40s?
Future Cat Lady
I keep going on dates with no success. I feel like giving up. Am I destined to become a future cat lady?
He Kept Our Relationship a Secret
I talked and texted with a guy for 8 months. We lived far apart so I wasn’t suspicous at first when we couldn’t meet up. He promised that we could Skype soon, but that always seemed to fall through. When I finally had enough and said something, he blocked me and told me that he would report me for harassment.
Is It Me?
It seems that every time I think I have met someone great, they ghost “disappear without word” on me all of a sudden. What am I doing wrong?
Happy But No Butterflies
It’s just that neither of us ever experienced the whole “butterflies” crush thing towards each other.
Fell Out of Love with Mr. Perfect
I’ve fallen out of love with Mr. Perfect and I don’t know what to do. I could picture a future with him but for a while now all I can think about is how I’m unhappy. Because he hasn’t done anything wrong, I feel like I’m going to irrevocably break his heart into a million tiny pieces.
Virgin Boyfriend wants to Sleep Around
My boyfriend thinks that I should give him permission to sleep with other women because he lost his virginity to me. Isn’t this worse than being cheated on?
Cruel Hearted Boyfriend
I’ve heard it said that the way people treat their parents says a lot about them. My boyfriend is very rude to his mother, to the point of humiliating her in front of me. Is this true and am I in big trouble?
Love Leaving Me Behind
This summer I met a great guy whom I’ve spent every waking hour. He is about to begin traveling and wants to break ties. Is this reasonable?
Still Dating my Ex-Boyfriend
Even though we broke up a year ago we still spend so much time together that it seems like we’re dating. Should we?
Damaged Relationship
I know that my boyfriend talks to other girls and has even been sexually involved with at least 2 of them, and yet I desperately try to be enough for him.
Boyfriend vs. Friends
I love my boyfriend and the way that I feel around him but my friends say that he is emotionally abusive and manipulative. Should I listen to them?
How Long Do I Wait
I love my boyfriend but he is tied up in a gnarly divorce and isn’t sure if he can ever commit to marrying me. How long should I wait for him to figure it out?
Introvert Alone Time Causes Conflict
My boyfriend thinks I don’t love him when I want time alone and is very critical of me for doing so. Is this reasonable for me to want alone time?
More Than Friends
My boyfriend said that he didn’t want a relationship anymore but now we still do all the things we used to before. We hook up, cuddle, and talk about the important things in our lives. Are we still dating?
“I Love You” Too Soon
I just started dating this guy I’ve known for a while. He’s really sweet, but he’s already saying that he loves me and it’s really freaking me out.
Lust or Like
I started dating this guy from one of my college classes but I am so confused. It feels like I’m chasing him. Is he shy and nervous or playing me?
Secret Photos
I found 47 secret nude photos that my boyfriend took of his female roommate. When I confronted him all he could say was “he didn’t know why” he took them.
Why Don’t Boys Like Me
My friends and family tell me that I’m pretty but I never feel that way. So why does every boy I like never like me back?
Desperately Trying to Help
He said he needs time to heal his broken heart. I care for him greatly and don’t want him suffering from what this girl did to him. What can I do to help?
Afraid of Risking It All
I have strong feelings for my good guy friend. The only problem is that he already has a girlfriend.
Are We Friends or Are We More
He told me that he couldn’t be in a relationship because he had “a lot of personal things to figure out.” Now we’re hanging out again and I’m confused about what he wants.
My Son is being Catfished
I think my son is being catfished and he’s even sending his “girlfriend” money for her medical bills. How can I warn him without causing resentment?
Saying Goodbye to Someone I Love
I still love my boyfriend but after he threw his son’s toy at my head, I knew that it was time to say goodbye
Baffled by No Reply
Things were going well with my online date until she saw pictures of other women on my phone. Now she won’t answer my calls.
My Beautiful Boyfriend and My Racist Mother
I can finally say I’ve found my prince charming. The only problem is that he’s black and my mom is pretty racist.
Downstairs Visitor Has Me Worried
When I went to visit my boyfriend last weekend he had a lady friend crashing downstairs. He said she was just a friend but I’m nervous.
Give Me a Heart of Stone
I want to be single after a difficult break up so I can focus on myself and my son. But there is a nice guy who is interested in me?!
Take a Chance
I moved away after graduating college, but a college crush just moved to town. Should I take a chance and ask him out?
Falling Too Fast
I fall in love too quickly and end up asking people out who aren’t interested in me. How do I know if they like me?
Live-In Friend
I’ve let a guy friend crash at my place for the past 7 months. Now my boyfriend wants me to throw him out.
To Crush or Not
My crush is a “f*ckboy” and I don’t want to be hurt. Should I date my guy friend instead?
Sleeping with my Sexually Confused Coworker
My straight coworker slept with me on a work trip and things have been confusing ever since.
Trapped in Lover’s Lane
I started developing feelings for one of my friends but she mentioned that she is asexual. How do I figure out if she’s interested in me?
Dropped for Another Woman
My boyfriend has been hanging out and texting with another woman. When I texted her to get her to stop, he broke up with me. What?
Betrayed by Bestie
One of my best friends started dating my ex-boyfriend just a few weeks after he broke up with me. Now she wants to be back in my life.
High School Reunion Love
I haven’t been infatuated with any boyfriend the way I was with my high school boyfriend. Now it’s time for my 10 year reunion and we’re both back in town. Should I go after him?
Bad Apples of Online Dating
I had a bad blind date experience from an online dating site and am tainted by the experience. How do I avoid another bad apple?
Blue Collar Boyfriend
What do I do? I met a great guy but his blue collar job doesn’t line up with my family
Unsure After Divorce
Dear Hoopers encourage a divorcee as she tries to find new love