Even though we’ve dated for 4 years my boyfriend still has a habit of bringing up his ex-girlfriends on a regular basis. I get really mad and then he gets really mad at me for feeling that way. It feels like we’re walking on eggshells every time he brings up the past.

I’ve been having trouble communicating with my boyfriend for a while now. I’m the kind of person who, when something upsets me, I need time to process it before I talk to someone about it. How can we talk without losing our minds?