Dear Hoopers

Next Door Concern

Dear Hoopers give counsel on how to navigate a noisy neighbor with concerns of partner violence

Addicted to Destruction

I think there is something wrong with me, but I've noticed a weird pattern that consists of me pushing good guys away from me and clinging...

Weekend Drinker

Dear Hoopers provide advice to a small town man who thinks that his drinking may be catching up with him

Eternal Bachelor

Dear Hoopers advise a man playing quite the game of serial dating

Too Much Food

Dear Hoopers advise a young lady struggling with binge eating

Dating Problems for a Guy

Despite the world being obsessed with "social justice", you won't read about women's pervasive patterns of racial, height, or other looks discrimination against men or how...

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

My girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago, but we have decided to live together for the time being until we sell our house...

Crazy and Obsessed

An obsession over a guy bonded me and my girlfriend together. Now that he's gone, how do we talk about anything else?

Smoking Fetish

My husband has an obsession/fetish when a woman smokes cigarettes. He fantasizes about me smoking ALL DAY, EVERY DAY.

He Kept Our Relationship a Secret

I talked and texted with a guy for 8 months. We lived far apart so I wasn't suspicous at first when we couldn't meet up. He...

More Plastic

Dear Hoopers counsel a young woman addicted to plastic surgery

Worthy and Torn

I know I'm high-maintenance and I also know I'm worthy of love and my needs being met.

Depressed Relationship

My boyfriend has depression and says that he should take meds but doesn't. He's ashamed of his mental illness and claims that pills would only reaffirm...

The Tyranny of “How are you?”

When I moved to Chicago several years ago I started noticing people greet me with the question, “How are you?” (or “How is it going?”). While...

Criticized

Dear Hoopers encourage a husband to find safe space when his marriage becomes too toxic

1-2-3-4-5

Dear Hoopers advise a man struggling with obsessions and compulsions

Annoyed at the New Guy

Dear Hoopers provide advice to a man who feels he is getting boxed out by a new guy

Worthy and Torn

I know I'm high-maintenance and I also know I'm worthy of love and my needs being met.

No More Kids Please

I am a 37-year old woman with 2 children and my new fiancé wants to have more children once we get married. Can I say no?

Why Don’t Boys Like Me

My friends and family tell me that I'm pretty but I never feel that way. So why does every boy I like never like me back?...

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

In all of our discussions about how to raise future children, we came to the agreement that they would be raised with "both sides". After he...

Give Me a Heart of Stone

I want to be single after a difficult break up so I can focus on myself and my son. But there is a nice guy who...

Long Distance Fear

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

We Lost our Zing

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

Dad is a Third Wheel

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

In-Laws, Am I Right?

Miscarriage Heartbroken

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

Fighting for Family

Depressed Relationship