Dear Hoopers - Online Advice Column, Dating & Relationship Advice

Long Distance Fear

After my boyfriend and I went to different colleges, he hooked up with other girls since he didn't think we were "exclusive." We're very much back...

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

In all of our discussions about how to raise future children, we came to the agreement that they would be raised with "both sides". After he...

We Lost our Zing

I've been married for 7 years, but I do not love my husband the same way that I used to. I mean I like him more...

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

I finally found the man that I want to marry. He's kind, considerate and we work very well together. However last week I found out he...

Dad is a Third Wheel

My boyfriend (I’ll call Jeff) and I have been together for 7 years, and started dating at 18. We both live with our parents, and recently...

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

For some reason after all this time I did online research and found out that he was married...but I don't know when and I'm not sure...

In-Laws, Am I Right?

My new husband's family deals with a very dysfunctional and demanding personality who often engages in manipulation and argumentative behavior. As a new in-law to this...

Miscarriage Heartbroken

During my pregnancy my husband was awful to me. We fight a lot and it ended up in me losing the baby. He is a good...

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

My girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago, but we have decided to live together for the time being until we sell our house...

Fighting for Family

My boyfriend will soon become my fiancé, and although our relationship is mostly wonderful, there is one hurdle I hope to cross. My boyfriend hates my...

Intimate Insecurity

Dear Hoopers support a young woman facing the pains of her early life trauma

Smoking Fetish

My husband has an obsession/fetish when a woman smokes cigarettes. He fantasizes about me smoking ALL DAY, EVERY DAY.

Pregnancy Feelings

I'm pregnant and should be happy, but I find myself unusually sad. Is this normal?

Criticized

Dear Hoopers encourage a husband to find safe space when his marriage becomes too toxic

Depressed Relationship

My boyfriend has depression and says that he should take meds but doesn't. He's ashamed of his mental illness and claims that pills would only reaffirm...

Depression Cutting In

I used to cut myself in the past to control my depression and I'm having the urge to start cutting again. How can I feel better...

Struggling to Trust

My boyfriend is the most attractive guy I've ever met and our connection in bed is unreal. The trouble is that he's a huge flirt.

Upset Over Facebook Search History

I happened to look at my boyfriend's phone and saw him searching for his ex on facebook. Should I confront him or just let it go?...

Buying Time for Babies

I'm in my late 30s and I haven't had children yet. My boyfriend says that he wants to have children but I'm beginning to have my...

Why Don’t Boys Like Me

My friends and family tell me that I'm pretty but I never feel that way. So why does every boy I like never like me back?...

Hints of Infidelity

Dear Hoopers encourage a daughter who is concerned about her father's recent phone call