Dear Hoopers - Online Advice Column, Dating & Relationship Advice

Long Distance Fear

After my boyfriend and I went to different colleges, he hooked up with other girls since he didn't think we were "exclusive." We're very much back...

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

In all of our discussions about how to raise future children, we came to the agreement that they would be raised with "both sides". After he...

We Lost our Zing

I've been married for 7 years, but I do not love my husband the same way that I used to. I mean I like him more...

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

I finally found the man that I want to marry. He's kind, considerate and we work very well together. However last week I found out he...

Dad is a Third Wheel

My boyfriend (I’ll call Jeff) and I have been together for 7 years, and started dating at 18. We both live with our parents, and recently...

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

For some reason after all this time I did online research and found out that he was married...but I don't know when and I'm not sure...

In-Laws, Am I Right?

My new husband's family deals with a very dysfunctional and demanding personality who often engages in manipulation and argumentative behavior. As a new in-law to this...

Miscarriage Heartbroken

During my pregnancy my husband was awful to me. We fight a lot and it ended up in me losing the baby. He is a good...

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

My girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago, but we have decided to live together for the time being until we sell our house...

Fighting for Family

My boyfriend will soon become my fiancé, and although our relationship is mostly wonderful, there is one hurdle I hope to cross. My boyfriend hates my...

Introvert Alone Time Causes Conflict

My boyfriend thinks I don't love him when I want time alone and is very critical of me for doing so. Is this reasonable for me...

Too Much Food

Dear Hoopers advise a young lady struggling with binge eating

Pregnancy Feelings

I'm pregnant and should be happy, but I find myself unusually sad. Is this normal?

Depressed Relationship

My boyfriend has depression and says that he should take meds but doesn't. He's ashamed of his mental illness and claims that pills would only reaffirm...

Depression Cutting In

I used to cut myself in the past to control my depression and I'm having the urge to start cutting again. How can I feel better...

Smoking Fetish

My husband has an obsession/fetish when a woman smokes cigarettes. He fantasizes about me smoking ALL DAY, EVERY DAY.

Fighting for Family

My boyfriend will soon become my fiancé, and although our relationship is mostly wonderful, there is one hurdle I hope to cross. My boyfriend hates my...

Daughter of a Step-Monster

My new stepmother is pulling my father away from me. I want to be in his life but I regret every minute I'm around her.

Suspicious Spouse

I think my wife may be using drugs behind my back. I have found suspicious traces here and there but nothing definitive. I don't want to...

Worthy and Torn

I know I'm high-maintenance and I also know I'm worthy of love and my needs being met.

He Kept Our Relationship a Secret

I talked and texted with a guy for 8 months. We lived far apart so I wasn't suspicous at first when we couldn't meet up. He...

Overly Negative Friend is Hurting My Mental Health

I have a friend that I love dearly but her constant negativity is dragging me down