Dear Hoopers

Overly Negative Friend is Hurting My Mental Health

I have a friend that I love dearly but her constant negativity is dragging me down

Falling Too Fast

I fall in love too quickly and end up asking people out who aren't interested in me. How do I know if they like me? ...

Helpless in My Marriage

I feel desperate to leave my marriage but feel helpless to do anything. How can I get myself out of here?

Sex Site Betrayal

I am 2 months into marriage and I found out that my husband has been secretly visiting an online sex hookup website. I am devastated and...

Suspicious Spouse

I think my wife may be using drugs behind my back. I have found suspicious traces here and there but nothing definitive. I don't want to...

Dear Hoopers vs. Dear Abby: Who Did it Better?

Same question. Different advice columnists.

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

I finally found the man that I want to marry. He's kind, considerate and we work very well together. However last week I found out he...

Is It Me?

It seems that every time I think I have met someone great, they ghost "disappear without word" on me all of a sudden. What am I...

I Want to Help

Dear Hoopers advise a fitness conscious man to tread lightly on giving diet advice to colleagues

Depressed Messages from a Struggling Soldier

My veteran brother-in-law is struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts. What do I say when he reaches out to me?

Introvert Alone Time Causes Conflict

My boyfriend thinks I don't love him when I want time alone and is very critical of me for doing so. Is this reasonable for me...

Intimate Insecurity

Dear Hoopers support a young woman facing the pains of her early life trauma

Criticized

Dear Hoopers encourage a husband to find safe space when his marriage becomes too toxic

Too Sensitive for Therapy

Negative comments mess me up for days and I'm afraid it is sabotaging my relationship. I want to go to therapy but am afraid I will...

1-2-3-4-5

Dear Hoopers advise a man struggling with obsessions and compulsions

High School Reunion Love

I haven't been infatuated with any boyfriend the way I was with my high school boyfriend. Now it's time for my 10 year reunion and we're...

Afraid of Risking It All

I have strong feelings for my good guy friend. The only problem is that he already has a girlfriend.

Lost Desire for My Husband

After our son's birth I lost my sexual desire for my husband and haven't been able to get it back. Now it's several years later and...

Happy But No Butterflies

It's just that neither of us ever experienced the whole "butterflies" crush thing towards each other.

Torn Between Two Dreams

I want to pursue my dream of graduate school but my dream of a boyfriend doesn't want to follow me when I move for school. Do...

Helpless in My Marriage

I feel desperate to leave my marriage but feel helpless to do anything. How can I get myself out of here?

Long Distance Fear

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

We Lost our Zing

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

Dad is a Third Wheel

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

In-Laws, Am I Right?

Miscarriage Heartbroken

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

Fighting for Family

Depressed Relationship