Dear Hoopers

Trapped in Lover’s Lane

I started developing feelings for one of my friends but she mentioned that she is asexual. How do I figure out if she's interested in me?...

Still Dating my Ex-Boyfriend

Even though we broke up a year ago we still spend so much time together that it seems like we're dating. Should we?

Stalked by My Partner’s Ex-Girlfriend

Ever since first dating, our relationship has been followed by a nasty shadow in the shape of my partner's ex-girlfriend. For months we endured 2am phone...

Baffled by No Reply

Things were going well with my online date until she saw pictures of other women on my phone. Now she won't answer my calls.

Unsure New Mother

I love my mother-in-law but her constant criticism of my parenting is becoming overwhelming.

Listless

Dear Hoopers energize a man struggling with apathy

Overweight Comments

Before even saying "good morning" to me, the first text I get from him now is, "Have you been to the gym today?" and makes me...

Blue Collar Boyfriend

What do I do? I met a great guy but his blue collar job doesn't line up with my family

Dear Hoopers vs. Dear Abby: Who Did it Better?

Same question. Different advice columnists.

Live-In Friend

I've let a guy friend crash at my place for the past 7 months. Now my boyfriend wants me to throw him out.

The Tyranny of “How are you?”

When I moved to Chicago several years ago I started noticing people greet me with the question, “How are you?” (or “How is it going?”). While...

Criticized

Dear Hoopers encourage a husband to find safe space when his marriage becomes too toxic

Overly Negative Friend is Hurting My Mental Health

I have a friend that I love dearly but her constant negativity is dragging me down

Smoking Fetish

My husband has an obsession/fetish when a woman smokes cigarettes. He fantasizes about me smoking ALL DAY, EVERY DAY.

Hopeless to Gaming

What do you do when your boyfriend loves gaming more than you?

Depressed Relationship

My boyfriend has depression and says that he should take meds but doesn't. He's ashamed of his mental illness and claims that pills would only reaffirm...

Dropped for Another Woman

My boyfriend has been hanging out and texting with another woman. When I texted her to get her to stop, he broke up with me. What?

Addicted to Destruction

I think there is something wrong with me, but I've noticed a weird pattern that consists of me pushing good guys away from me and clinging...

Why Drake’s Mom Wants You to Stop Being So Distrustful

Ms. Graham discusses that while paranoia and skepticism are normal emotions for someone going through his life experiences, these emotions have consequences too.