Dear Hoopers

Escaping Control in Emotional Affair

My controlling and abusive husband led me to find attention from someone else. Now what do I do?

Don’t Facebook My Baby

My sister posted some nude photos of my baby to facebook. I know she regularly posts photos of her children but I just don't feel comfortable...

Spouse of Overspender

We have no money in the bank and my husband keeps spending. How do I get him to start saving?

Criticized

Dear Hoopers encourage a husband to find safe space when his marriage becomes too toxic

Christmas Visit Stress

My parents' house is soul sucking on Christmas day, but I know I need to visit.

Drunk Driving Roommate

My roommate won't stop drinking and driving. I think she's going to hurt herself or someone else and I don't know what to do.

Afraid of Risking It All

I have strong feelings for my good guy friend. The only problem is that he already has a girlfriend.

Happy But No Butterflies

It's just that neither of us ever experienced the whole "butterflies" crush thing towards each other.

2 Women, Big Problems

After my wife and I separated, I found new love. Now my wife wants to work things out and I'm torn up about what do do....

Blurry Saturday Night

Last Saturday night was a blur for me and I ended up in my guy friend's bed. I don't know what happened but I want to...

The Tyranny of “How are you?”

When I moved to Chicago several years ago I started noticing people greet me with the question, “How are you?” (or “How is it going?”). While...

Listless

Dear Hoopers energize a man struggling with apathy

Depression Cutting In

I used to cut myself in the past to control my depression and I'm having the urge to start cutting again. How can I feel better...

Too Sensitive for Therapy

Negative comments mess me up for days and I'm afraid it is sabotaging my relationship. I want to go to therapy but am afraid I will...

Intimate Insecurity

Dear Hoopers support a young woman facing the pains of her early life trauma

Worthy and Torn

I know I'm high-maintenance and I also know I'm worthy of love and my needs being met.

Unloved Wife

My husband is passionate about watching football and hunting and loves spending time with the kids but I seem to be his last priority

Tongue Tied

I’ve been having trouble communicating with my boyfriend for a while now. I'm the kind of person who, when something upsets me, I need time to...

My Wife is Flippant with Finances

My wife is careless with finances, which has paralyzed the love in our marriage. We have tried counseling to no success in the past. What else...

Emotionless Fiancé led to Affair

I was with my past boyfriend/ fiancé for 7 years. I loved him to pieces and we were best friends. My only complaint was his lack...

Too Sensitive for Therapy

Negative comments mess me up for days and I'm afraid it is sabotaging my relationship. I want to go to therapy but am afraid I will...

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

In all of our discussions about how to raise future children, we came to the agreement that they would be raised with "both sides". After he...

Long Distance Fear

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

We Lost our Zing

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

Dad is a Third Wheel

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

In-Laws, Am I Right?

Miscarriage Heartbroken

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

Fighting for Family

Depressed Relationship