Dear Hoopers

Leave Out the Only Child Mentality

My boyfriend can often times be irresponsible but he has helped me to slow down and smell the roses. How can I get him to be...

Stuck in the South

Dear Hoopers encourage patience for someone feeling out of place

Wife Trying to Forget the Impossible

Before my husband and I got married, he slept with my sister. I found out when I found the pictures.

Fighting for Family

My boyfriend will soon become my fiancé, and although our relationship is mostly wonderful, there is one hurdle I hope to cross. My boyfriend hates my...

Blurry Saturday Night

Last Saturday night was a blur for me and I ended up in my guy friend's bed. I don't know what happened but I want to...

My Beautiful Boyfriend and My Racist Mother

I can finally say I've found my prince charming. The only problem is that he's black and my mom is pretty racist.

Polyamorous Partner

My boyfriend wants to have other partners in our relationship. I feel violated by this idea but I also love him deeply.

Dating Problems for a Guy

Despite the world being obsessed with "social justice", you won't read about women's pervasive patterns of racial, height, or other looks discrimination against men or how...

Buying Time for Babies

I'm in my late 30s and I haven't had children yet. My boyfriend says that he wants to have children but I'm beginning to have my...

Lust or Like

I started dating this guy from one of my college classes but I am so confused. It feels like I'm chasing him. Is he shy and...

Friend in a Funk

My friend hasn't been herself lately and I'm worried that she's struggling with depression. How can I reach out without prying?

1-2-3-4-5

Dear Hoopers advise a man struggling with obsessions and compulsions

Smoking Fetish

My husband has an obsession/fetish when a woman smokes cigarettes. He fantasizes about me smoking ALL DAY, EVERY DAY.

Listless

Dear Hoopers energize a man struggling with apathy

Introvert Alone Time Causes Conflict

My boyfriend thinks I don't love him when I want time alone and is very critical of me for doing so. Is this reasonable for me...

Depressed Relationship

My boyfriend has depression and says that he should take meds but doesn't. He's ashamed of his mental illness and claims that pills would only reaffirm...

Broken Heart Lifestyle

Hello! I’m 40 and full of energy. I’m growing my own company and doing yoga and running with my dogs. I have been in love four...

Desperately Trying to Help

He said he needs time to heal his broken heart. I care for him greatly and don’t want him suffering from what this girl did to...

Blue Collar Boyfriend

What do I do? I met a great guy but his blue collar job doesn't line up with my family

He Kept Our Relationship a Secret

I talked and texted with a guy for 8 months. We lived far apart so I wasn't suspicous at first when we couldn't meet up. He...

Introvert Alone Time Causes Conflict

My boyfriend thinks I don't love him when I want time alone and is very critical of me for doing so. Is this reasonable for me...

Bonus Mom to an Infant

I fell in love with a man going through a divorce. Then I found out that his soon to be ex-wife was pregnant. Fast forward and...

Long Distance Fear

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

We Lost our Zing

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

Dad is a Third Wheel

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

In-Laws, Am I Right?

Miscarriage Heartbroken

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

Fighting for Family

Depressed Relationship