Dear Hoopers - Online Advice Column, Dating & Relationship Advice

Long Distance Fear

After my boyfriend and I went to different colleges, he hooked up with other girls since he didn't think we were "exclusive." We're very much back...

Faith, Family, and Future Confusion

In all of our discussions about how to raise future children, we came to the agreement that they would be raised with "both sides". After he...

We Lost our Zing

I've been married for 7 years, but I do not love my husband the same way that I used to. I mean I like him more...

Partner’s Sexual Guilt

I finally found the man that I want to marry. He's kind, considerate and we work very well together. However last week I found out he...

Dad is a Third Wheel

My boyfriend (I’ll call Jeff) and I have been together for 7 years, and started dating at 18. We both live with our parents, and recently...

I Was the Other Woman and I Didn’t Know It

For some reason after all this time I did online research and found out that he was married...but I don't know when and I'm not sure...

In-Laws, Am I Right?

My new husband's family deals with a very dysfunctional and demanding personality who often engages in manipulation and argumentative behavior. As a new in-law to this...

Miscarriage Heartbroken

During my pregnancy my husband was awful to me. We fight a lot and it ended up in me losing the baby. He is a good...

My Girlfriend Broke Up With Me But We Still Live Together

My girlfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago, but we have decided to live together for the time being until we sell our house...

Fighting for Family

My boyfriend will soon become my fiancé, and although our relationship is mostly wonderful, there is one hurdle I hope to cross. My boyfriend hates my...

Intimate Insecurity

Dear Hoopers support a young woman facing the pains of her early life trauma

Depressed Messages from a Struggling Soldier

My veteran brother-in-law is struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts. What do I say when he reaches out to me?

The Tyranny of “How are you?”

When I moved to Chicago several years ago I started noticing people greet me with the question, “How are you?” (or “How is it going?”). While...

Listless

Dear Hoopers energize a man struggling with apathy

Too Much Food

Dear Hoopers advise a young lady struggling with binge eating

1-2-3-4-5

Dear Hoopers advise a man struggling with obsessions and compulsions

Too Sensitive for Therapy

Negative comments mess me up for days and I'm afraid it is sabotaging my relationship. I want to go to therapy but am afraid I will...

Overweight Comments

Before even saying "good morning" to me, the first text I get from him now is, "Have you been to the gym today?" and makes me...

In-Laws, Am I Right?

My new husband's family deals with a very dysfunctional and demanding personality who often engages in manipulation and argumentative behavior. As a new in-law to this...

Dad is a Third Wheel

My boyfriend (I’ll call Jeff) and I have been together for 7 years, and started dating at 18. We both live with our parents, and recently...

Criticized

Dear Hoopers encourage a husband to find safe space when his marriage becomes too toxic